With all this buzz about the Royal Wedding of Prince I-Am-Too-Sexy-For-My-Crown William and his Ridiculously-Gorgeous-Should-Be-A-Model Commoner bride, Kate Middleton, wedding talk is at a fever pitch!! I will be DVRing the big event (judge me, that’s fine) because 5 AM is far too early for be to be awake and witnessing an
overpriced, ridiculously publicized historical event. I guess it is every girl’s dream to be a Princess (never mine, but that’s fine) and Kate is technically living that dream. She is a commoner (whose parents were pretty well-to-do, let’s not kid ourselves here) who has met and fallen in love with a Prince. Can’t argue with that.
What I CAN argue about is this ridiculous notion (thanks to Disney) of the Princess species and what it stands for. I have never been comfortable with the idea of the Princess, as it is portrayed. Princesses usually had to change some facet of their being to be able to be considered suitable or attractive to a male counterpart, here played by the Prince. Ariel in the Little Mermaid lost her tail, grew some ridiculously awesome legs and strutted down the aisle with the dashing Prince Eric. Sleeping Beauty (who wasn’t the brightest, let’s be honest) fell into a deep sleep only to be awakened by a kiss from one Handsome Prince. And Snow White had to shack up with seven little men and be poisoned by a witch (what I don’t understand is why the witches have to be ugly? I’d like to see some sexy witch out of a burlesque show to pop in all corseted up and slip a mickey to a Princess-to-Be) and then saved by a Prince. WHY ARE THESE GIRLS ALWAYS NEEDING SAVED?! What could be SO bad!? None of them had jobs, none of them even went to the grocery store from what we know… really. Always with the needing saved. I don’t get it. As a feminist, this Princess business just irks me. Mulan. THAT was a kickin’ broad, if I do say so myself. She did what needed to do to get the job done.I can applaud that. Huzzah for Mulan! (Although it does make me a little angry that she had to front as a man to fight, but whatever, it is what it is…)
One Princess I can be totally down with: Belle from Beauty and the Beast. The girl was a bibliophile. I can totally dig that. She didn’t do anything wrong, didn’t need saved. Heck, the only wacky thing she did was stumble across a magical castle with this guy dressed as a beast and dancing houseware. THAT is wicked! And HE changed for her! All she had to do was see what was truly underneath, to not judge him based on looks, but on how she made him feel, and wah-lah. He became a Handsome Prince. I think she’d have stayed with him even if he stayed a Beast (really, who wouldn’t love
Angela Landsbury Mrs Potts every morning singing to you about the sun rising in the East?!) I am down with Belle. I say we need more Belles!! The girl stayed true to herself, took care of her dad when he needed her, read all of the books she could touch and the man changed for her. Her kiss brought him to his true self. Hip hip hooray!
Princesses have taken over the mentality of the toddler/preschool girl set. Let’s be honest. However, I also plan on educating my girls about strong feminist characters that are infamous for their own thing, paving their own way and walking to their own drums. I say we need less Princess, more Women of Character. Now, don’t get me wrong, some moms I know adore the Princesses and think it’s adorable that their girls do, too. And that is fine, to each her own I would never tell anyone they are wrong. But for me, and my girls, I believe that the Princess mentality is a bit stifling, and more options need to be available to little girls for role models.
I would hate for my daughters to feel that they have to wait around for some man (or woman, you never know) to rescue them or bring their true selves out. I refuse to let that become their reality, and want to let them know that they can do whatever they want. Regardless of how they go about finding their Happily Ever After.
(congrats real quick to my girl Jen and her man Shelby on their engagement tonight!! woohoo!!)